Journey in Life

What is Forgiving and Forgetting in a Relationship?

Forgiving is allowing another person to be human for faults, mistakes or misdeeds.

Forgetting is putting these behind you; they are no longer brought up and no longer remain a barrier to your relationship.

Forgiving is letting the other person know that there is no grudge, hard feeling, or animosity for any wrongdoings. 

Forgetting is the lack of further discussion, with no ongoing negative references to the event. 

Forgiving is letting the other person know that you accept as genuine the remorse and sorrows for actions or words that hurt or dissapointed you. 

Forgetting is promising that this deeds, whether of omission or commission will not be brought up again.

Forgiving is accepting the sincerity of penance, sorrow, and regret expressed over a grievous personal offense, making it sufficient to clear the air. 

Forgetting is your commitment to let go of anger, hurt or pain over this offense. 

Forgiving is giving a sign that a person’s explanation or acceptance of blame for a destructive, hurful or painful act is fully accepted. 

Forgetting is the development of plan of action between the two of you to heal the scars resulting from the behaviour. 

Forgiving is the highest form of human behaviour tha can be shown to another person.  It is the opening up of yourself to that person to be vulnerable to being hurt or offended in the future, yet setting aside this in order to reopen and heal the channels of communication.

Forgetting is equally as high a human behaviour; it is letting go of the need to seek revenge for past offenses. 

Forgiving is an act of love between you and a person who has hurt you; the bandage that holds the wound together long enough to heal. 

Forgetting is also an act of love; in rehabilitation therapy, helping the wounded to return to a full, functional, living reality.

Forgiving is the God like gift of spiritually connecting with others; touching their hearts to calm the fear of rejection, quiet the sense of failure, and lighten the burden of guilt. 

Forgetting is the God like gift of spiritually touching others’ hearts with the reassurance of a happy and full life with no fear of recrimination, remonstrations, or reminding of past offenses.

Forgiving is the act of letting go of temporary ill will, dissapointment, or the disgust that arises from the break in your relationship. 

Forgetting is bringing this gap in the relationship, eventually strenghtening it against such a break in the future.

Forgiving is an act of compassion, humanity and gentleness by which you let another know that he/she is indeed a child of the universe upon whom a variety of graces and blessings have been showered and that current or past offenses need not be a barrier preventing goodness and worth to shine through. 

Forgetting is an act of encouragement, support, and reinforcement by which you assist the other person to rebuild, reconnect and re-establish a loving, caring, healthy relationship with you, others and the world whereby gifts, talents and skills are freely appreciated and shared. 

It is hard to forgive one another, but it’s harder to forget.  If only us human being can learn to forgive and forget one another, wouldn’t this world be a better place to live?