Journey in Life

When we are angry we say the most atrocious things. We forget ourselves and become indifferent to what we say. We blast the other person without mercy, although we may not mean those words. But words once spoken cannot be taken back and it takes a long time to forgive and forget. It is very important for us to control ourselves when we are angry. We have to exercise self-control. Many couples are particularly prone to such outbursts when they get mad.

The tongue can bless and the tongue can curse. When we say good words, we bless but when we say nasty words, we curse. Words can heal and words can harm. Words can hurt grievously and for a long time. Therefore, it is vitally important that we exercise our choice to speak helpful words wherever we are, particularly at home. Words of care, words of encouragement, words of praise, words of love, words of admiration, positive words are all helpful words. We then create an environment that is pleasant to be in. To dwell in peace, we have to tame our tongue. But it is not an easy thing to control our tongue when we are provoked, boiled over with anger or have outburst of wrath.

It is at such time that we have to learn to hold our tongue and to remain silent. If we can’t tame our tongue, we have to take a break or go for a walk to cool off. It is much easier to control the words before the blow-up than during the explosion.

Uncontrollable words spoken in anger can have devastating effects and they can take a very long time to forgive. The unmeant and foolish words contain full of deadly poison and can play havoc in the mind. The unruly words get churned over for hours on end and do their worst mischief in the difficult relationship. Let us learn to turn away from angry words before they leave our mouth and try to say healing words instead.